For ADHD and AuDHD dads

When their nervous system sets yours on fire.

Unmask helps you interrupt the escalation loop between you and your child—in the moment—before shouting becomes shame and everybody ends up wrecked.

We’re escalating → See the four moments
◎Built by an AuDHD dad of three. Not therapy. Not another task manager. Help with the next 30 seconds.
Right nowReady
How close are you to losing it?
1I’m stretched, but holding
2I’m very close to the edge
3I’m at the edge now
One question at a timeNext →
“Some days my son and I dysregulate each other into oblivion. I built the thing I needed in that moment.”Ryan — founder, AuDHD dad
The problem is the loop

Two sensitive nervous systems.
One hard moment.

Most tools focus on your regulation or your child’s behaviour. Unmask supports the collision between both nervous systems.

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Your child goes into threat mode

The transition, demand, noise, disappointment or sensory load is suddenly too much. Reasoning gets harder. Their behaviour gets louder—or disappears completely.

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Your own system follows

The noise hits. Urgency rises. Your working memory vanishes. You say more, push harder or shut down—then hate yourself afterwards.

Unmask does not ask you to become perfectly calm. It helps you make one smaller move that gives both nervous systems a better chance.

Open it when you need it

Four moments.
One clear next step.

No courses to finish. No streak to protect. Start with what is happening now.

01 / RIGHT NOW

We’re escalating

Safety first, then one action, exact words, what to stop doing and a fallback when the first idea is rejected.

Open this flow → 02 / AFTERWARDS

I lost it

Come down from the shame spiral and make a clean, age-appropriate repair without making your child look after your feelings.

Open this flow → 03 / BEFORE IT STARTS

A hard moment is coming

Prepare for bedtime, screens ending, school mornings, homework, public outings or any predictable flashpoint.

Open this flow → 04 / THE REPEATING LOOP

This keeps happening

Capture early signs, your own signals and what helped. Build a family playbook from patterns—not blame.

Open this flow →
Designed for an overloaded brain

Not an essay.
A usable response.

When you are flooded, more information is not more help. Unmask keeps the output deliberately small.

Unmask resetAbout 30 seconds
Do this first
Stop talking for ten seconds. Move one step back and lower your shoulders.
Say this
“I’m here. You don’t have to solve this right now.”
Stop doing
Do not add another explanation or consequence while both of you are activated.
If that fails
Reduce the audience and the demand. Revisit the task after the intensity has dropped.
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Check immediate safety

If anyone may be hurt, Unmask stops the coaching flow and directs you to real-world safety support.

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Answer a few small questions

Select what is happening, your current capacity and the setting. Names and identifying details are discouraged.

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Get the next move

One action, exact language, a “do not” and a fallback. Then tell us whether it helped so the product improves.

Why this exists

Built from the bit people whisper afterwards.

I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD at 41 after years of building a career, raising three boys and looking far more capable on the outside than I felt on the inside.

Medication quietened some of the noise. It did not make family life quiet. Parenting can be beautiful, relentless sensory overload—and sometimes my child’s distress activates every unfinished part of my own nervous system.

There are task managers, timers, courses and coaching programs. They can all help. But in the moment when your child is shouting, you are shouting, and neither of you can find the exit, you do not need another system to maintain.

You need one smaller move. Words you can actually say. Permission to stop making the moment worse. And when it goes badly, a way back that does not begin with shame.

That is what I am building Unmask to be.

Ryan
Founder · AuDHD dad of three · building in Newcastle, NSW
Trust before growth

Supportive, private and clear about its limits.

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Not emergency support

Unmask does not diagnose, provide therapy or replace clinical or emergency care. Immediate danger always routes away from AI guidance.

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Minimal information

The live tool asks for structured context and discourages names. Pattern entries stay on your device unless you choose to analyse them.

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You control deletion

Clear saved patterns and consent settings at any time. We explain what is sent to the AI provider before the first generated response.

Read the plain-English privacy notice · Read the terms and safety limitations

Early access is open

Use it in the next hard moment.
Help make it better.

Open the focused beta now—no invitation or account required. It is free while we test whether dads deliberately return during another difficult incident. When paid founding membership opens, the confirmed founding price will be AUD $12/month.

Open Unmask now →